Because they Love us

This blog is about letting go.Its also about what people can justify with the phrase"Because I love you".This is a note to all parents-Learn to let go.You have brought up your child in the best possible way.You've done everything you can for him.You've given him everything he has evr needed or wanted -within reason of course.But there comes a time in every child's life when in the eyes of the parents he seems to turn on the hand that fed him.This is when u need to led go.How long do you think you can protect him?For ever?Can you stay with her till she walks into her grave.The young do not fear death.Let them live.Let them make mistakes.They need to learn who they are. I'm warning you there will come a time when your child will cut herself to see whether she can really bleed because You've molly cuddled her so much that she simply does not know. There will come a time when ure child will take a rik just to see what happens.Tie a man in a strait jacket long enuff and he will one day try to choke himself.In parenthood there comes a time when your child will run a sword thru ur heart.He will turn on you and say "Dont do this for me anymore.Enough Protection." He will tell you that he needs his space and that he needs to get away from you for a while. Instead of clinging on to him at this point like a drowning sailor take a deep breath look him in the eye and say "I trust you . Do what you feel necessary. Remember that we love you ad that our hopes and dreams res on your shoulders."You will not be let down.Now onto a related issue..
There is an amazin amount of things that parents seem to get away with using the phrase "because we love you.."It is implied.Every time my mother comes up to me and says something like "i'd like to accompany you to college" I find myself thinking "Alrite,she wants to accompany her son whom she loves dearly.She wants to be the proud mother she has always wanted to be.Is that so bad?It wil cost me some face with my frends .But what the heck."I pray that my son thinks out the same line of thought some day.But there are times,times when i really wish i could draw the line.When my father gives me lines like"Dont go to the movie because one my friends will see you there and therefore my reputation as a good father will decrease and also I have reason to believe that movie goers are spoilt brats.Besides all your brothers were spoilt by goin to the movies."I feel like throwing up my hands in sheer total frustration and banging my head on the wall.Dont You EVR trust me ?Dont give me that about it not being a question of trust.It IS about trust.Can't you put aside your fears for me?Just because HE got "Spoilt"when he went to the movies,doesn't mean i will as well.Youve drilled your "morals" untill i can recite them backwards.Then what are you afraid of?The bottom line is:You dont trust me.Atleast thats what i feel.You dont trust me.I trust you so much.I would lay my life down for one of your decisions.But I'd like some trust in return. Someday.

Disclaimer:This particular blog is not something I'm riting outt of my own personal experience.It's second hand.Peace